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Couples Counseling

  • Do you and your partner keep running into the same roadblocks when communicating with each other?
  • Do you feel that stress and not having enough time in the day has put a distance between the two of you?
  • Have either of you had an infidelity in your relationship and do not know how to recover?
  • Do you just want to be connected to your partner again?

ATX Intuitive Connections helps couples:

*Communicate effectively - each person takes responsibility for their part

*Dissolve relational distress and connect on a deeper level - understand the dance of your relationship and how to change the dynamic

*Close any gap of distance to prevent loneliness and heal from past and present hurt - being honest, expressing needs, and setting boundaries

Approach

*Relational living therapy (RLT)

*Emotionally focused therapy (EFT)

*Imago relationship therapy

*Mindfulness, along with incorporating the body/mind Psychotherapy approach.

RLT aims to help partners resolve conflicts, take personal accountability, develop equality, improve communication, and develop deeper connections within relationships. All relationships experience cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair. Repair is critical for a successful relationship and RLT teaches effective methods on how to properly repair via understanding and/or working through: (1) repeating loops in relationship (2) how childhood adaptation interferes with connection (3) reparenting inner child (4) lovingly confrontation and how to set boundaries (5) master new skills. Great resource: The New Rules of Marriage and I Don't Want to Talk about it by Terrence Real

EFT is an approach to couples therapy and has developed alongside the science on adult attachment and bonding to look into what is happening in couple relationships. EFT was created by Sue Johnson. Typically, when our partner does something that intensely upsets us, it usually means they poked one of our old wounds. In therapy, we address what comes up when your partner does said things, help you partner empathize with your wounds, which in turns helps them to understand that it’s not just about them creating problems (when someone thinks they are entirely to blame they retreat into a safe spot of defensiveness). This frees up space for self-healing and relationship repair, which leads to working on how to react and respond in a different way. Great resource: Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson

Imago Relational Therapy: The Latin word “imago”—meaning “image”—refers to the “unconscious image of familiar love.” What was found is that there is frequently a connection between frustrations in adult relationships and early childhood experiences. As an example, individuals frequently criticized as a child will likely be highly sensitive to their partner’s criticism. Childhood feelings of abandonment, suppression or neglect will often arise in a marriage or committed relationship. When such “core issues” repeatedly come up with a partner, they can overshadow all that is good in a relationship and leave one to wonder whether he or she has chosen the right person.

Through Imago Relationship Therapy, couples can learn to understand each other’s feelings and “childhood wounds” more empathically, allowing them to heal themselves and their relationships so they can move toward a more “Conscious Relationship.” Learning and teaching the “Imago Dialogue” allows couples to move from blame and reactivity, to understanding and empathy, so they can create a deeper and loving connection with each other. Great resource: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

Mindfulness is a flavor of awareness that arises by deliberately paying attention to the present moment, without judgment. It is also the cultivation and practice of an intentional new, internal method of processing awareness accompanied by a detached posture toward the present moment. The ability to conduct a “body scan” and move your mindful awareness to notice tension in your body provides an opportunity to down-regulate when a conversation might be starting to go south with your partner. Great resource: Mindsight by Daniel Siegal

Body/Mind Psychotherapy is a somatic-cognitive approach to therapy that incorporates elements of physiology, psychotherapy, and mindfulness. Have you ever heard of the saying, "the issues are in the tissues?" Stress and trauma not only affect the brain, but also the nervous system, which can result in a whole range of physical symptoms - this is why it is essential to engage not only the mind, but the body to heal. Great resource: The Body Keeps Score by Van der Kolk Bessel A

Higher Success Rate

If you are seeking a counselor, it’s a sign that you are ready to learn, heal and grow. Don’t wait till it’s too late. Couples who seek help earlier in their relationship have a much higher success rate.